It’s been said that one of the primary keys to having confidence in yourself is how you handle yourself in times of high anxiety or nervousness. Knowing how to gain confidence is not a one-step process, but it considers your attitude, willpower, and focus. Fortunately, there are many ways for you to mentally fight off anxiety about your future instead of turning to denial as you move forward with poor confidence in multiple areas of your life. Perhaps you have already experienced some of that anxiety as you’re entering a new phase in your life, or maybe you just are looking for clarity on your next steps to take. Whatever the case, if you don’t start now, it’s unlikely that you will be able to fight it off long-term.

There is a little nagging voice inside you that tells you that you don’t “believe” yourself. It’s a little voice that says, “You can’t do it! This is impossible!” As soon as you hear that voice, you must turn it around inside yourself and convince yourself that you can do it – that things are going to be just fine, and you WILL feel good about yourself.

One of the best ways for you to turn that little voice “down” into something positive is to make sure that whenever you are feeling insecure, you immediately turn it around and say something like, “I feel confident.” It’s interesting how this simple phrase changes things. Most people with low self-confidence will often say something like, “I’m just not very confident right now.” When they say that, their ego has them saying something like, “If only I had more confidence, then things would be different…” And that’s where they end up.

A huge problem people have when they think about gaining self-confidence and improving their self-esteem is believing that they don’t deserve it. They think about themselves as poor because of a lack of self-doubt or self-confidence, and they try to convince themselves that they just aren’t good enough people to get ahead in life. The only thing standing in the way between you and your dreams and goals is you.

Making small changes in your life and asserting positivity instead of self-doubts help you in regaining and building your confidence. If you take into account your positive attitude every day, you will see for yourself that in a matter of days, you will how to gain confidence.